29. Your fear of the truth
One thing that we all need to be happy is an understanding of our own inner truths. But it can be scary to look inside and find out who you are. There is all kinds of uncharted territory in our hearts and souls, and the roads we are called upon to walk can be challenging ones. And sometimes we have to walk them alone.
It is okay to be scared, but if you let that fear rule your life, you will always be unhappy. It is tempting to believe that the safe way, the easy way, the approved way, will make you happy, but it won’t.
It will only make it safe and easy for you to be unhappy, and for your unhappiness to win the approval of others. Your only shot at true happiness is to find out who you really are and what you really want, and then go after it—even if it is scary.
30. Your fear of being happy
Perhaps the number one obstacle that we tend to put in our way when it comes to being happy is fear of being happy. Why would anyone fear being happy?
Maybe you think you don’t deserve it. Perhaps you feel guilty if you are happy and someone else is not. Or perhaps you have been through so many tragedies that you have a hard time believing in happiness.
Maybe you feel like the hammer is always waiting to fall, and the moment you allow yourself a breath of fresh air and rejoice at your fortunes, the hammer will come down and destroy it.
That comes back to the fear of being out of control and the fear of uncertainty. Maybe the hammer is waiting to come down. That is a possibility you have to accept. But if you do not dare to be happy, you have already flattened yourself just as surely.
Remember that being happy is not the same as taking happiness for granted. You are not asking for the hammer to fall simply by rejoicing.
Make your happiness an expression of gratitude to life for allowing you to feel it. Share that happiness with someone that you love, and you will not feel guilty. Be generous with your success, and help someone else out who is struggling with their own tragedy.
Letting go is sometimes easy, and other times it can be the hardest thing you’ve ever done. Starting over may be an even greater challenge. You can do it, though, and looking back someday, you’ll know it was absolutely worth it.