17. Your addictions
Around 1 in 10 people is addicted to drugs or alcohol. There are many other forms of addiction too, however. You could be addicted to toxic relationships, to drama, to work, to any number of other things. If one thing is certain in life, it is that your addictions will always keep you from being happy. Why?
Addiction is the need to fill a void that can never be filled, to satisfy an insatiable appetite. It is the desire for more when there is never enough. Since that void is bottomless and that appetite is infinite, addiction locks you into a perpetual state of dissatisfaction.
At the same time, it devours everything else in your life: your energy, your attention, your relationships. Recovering from addiction is one of the hardest things you will ever do. It is also one of the biggest steps you can ever take toward happiness.
18. Other peoples’ opinions and expectations
When you think about it, it really is incredible how much we structure our lives around what other people think is best for us. And then when you realize that those people are doing the same thing in their lives, you get a pretty absurd picture of mirrors facing mirrors. Is there anything genuine in it all?
Only if you make the decision to do what you know is best for you. Maybe other people won’t like it or understand it, but that’s okay. You are not a dollar bill. Not everybody is going to like you, or should. You do not have to be liked by everyone to be happy. What you do need to do to be happy is be yourself.